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In the comedy “Groundhog Day” Bill Murray experienced the same day again and again, stuck in a time loop until he got the day “right.” What day would you choose to repeat until you got it right? Do you think it’s ever possible to get life “right”? Photographers, artists, poets: show us REPETITION.

I can’t think of a day that I’d like to do over and over again until I got it “right”.  Any day where I did something “wrong”, I would not want to repeat. I wouldn’t want to live it over again, and I certainly wouldn’t publish it here for the entire world to share my shame or embarrassment. I also don’t think it’s possible to get life “right”.  Life is to be lived, and in the journey we learn and grow.  We make mistakes so that we can learn from them. Our past mistakes or transgressions are what make us who we are today.

There are days that I would repeat over and over again for the sheer joy of reliving them.  My wedding day comes to mind as a day that I would repeat.  There are only a couple of things about that day that weren’t perfect.


The first thing I would “fix” is the weather.  It was cold and rainy.  Of course, it was November 11th.  That type of nasty weather is to be expected in November in Rochester, New York.  Still, having a nice, cool sunny day would have been preferable over cold and wet.


The second thing I would “fix” would be the minor disagreement we had over seating.  There were two “reserved” tables, and somehow in the excitement my family got forgotten.  There was a small discussion (our first argument), and then some guests had to be asked to sit elsewhere so that my family could have the seats of honor closest to me.


Those two things were the only “mar” on an otherwise perfect day.  We got married in the morning because I worried that I would be nervous and spastic on my big day.  I was not.  I was calm and collected. I had been nervous and shaky the night before at the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.


We had a wedding brunch which was unusual and different.  I enjoyed every minute of it.  After a few hours of celebrating with our loved ones, we got on the road and drove to Niagara Falls to spend our first night together as a married couple.  The next day we would drive on to Toronto for our real honeymoon.


I have often pondered whether or not a honeymoon in an exotic location would have been more fun or more memorable.  Looking back now, I don’t think so.  That’s just not us.  We are not beach people or sun worshippers.  I hate the summer heat so I can’t imagine spending the week on a beach somewhere.  I don’t think we missed out on anything.  I also would have regretted spending that much money on a trip. We are simple people.  We paid for most of the wedding and honeymoon ourselves so we did a simple yet special day.


So for my “Groundhog day”, I would repeat my wedding day for the sheer bliss of marrying the man I love over and over again.