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My six words –
Spend more time with my husband
The explanation –
You know that song lyric “you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone”? Well I can tell you it’s true. You really don’t appreciate what you’ve got until it’s taken away.
For 20 years my husband was home every night. He made dinner. He helped me raise the boys. We slept side by side every night.
When he lost his computer job in 2010 we figured it was only a matter of time before he found another one. When the unemployment was close to running out and there was still no job, he was forced to look outside the computer field. He’d always loved driving so getting his Commercial Driver’s License seemed like a great solution.
He started out with a trucking company that gave him a bus ticket from New York State to Wisconsin. He rode the bus for 2 days to get there and ended up driving a truck across the parking lot. It was a different sort of transmission and shifter than the one he’d trained on. They gave him a bus ticket back home. Did I mention that trucking companies are kind-of heartless?
Next was a training stint with a different trucking company that took him away from home for 6 weeks. That was hell. He went all across the South-Southwest United States. In the last few days of his training, he was backing at night into a narrow loading bay at a Wal-Mart. In the dark he didn’t see a concrete pole and he scraped the side of the truck cab on the pole. Since he was still a trainee, the second company had to let him go. Did I mention that trucking companies are kind-of heartless? They wanted to give him a bus ticket home from Texas, but I managed to find him an airline ticket for the same price.
Then we found his current job. He started out as a local delivery driver, and he was home every night. It was great until the hours home got shorter. His employer is located an hour away from our house. He’d come home late, and he was getting maybe 3 hours of sleep and then he’d rush back to drive again. When he was home, he was sleeping. It was killing him – he was so tired all the time. Local drivers get promoted to over-the-road spots when they’ve gained experience. Over-the-road drivers get better pay and better trucks. He got promoted.
Now I have a part-time Hubby, and I miss him. It’s hard to go from having him home every night to only at home 34 hours per week. I try to look on the bright side and realize that it could be worse. Other drivers are out 3-4 weeks at a time and then home for a couple of days. At least I see him every week.
When I look at the future I see more of what I had in the past but was too stupid to appreciate when I had it – spending more time with my best friend, partner and husband. That will be the best part of our retirement years.